“Can I Touch It?” And Other Things Women with Natural Hair Are Tired of Hearing

It was a sunny Saturday morning, and Ada had just stepped out of Flourish Beauty Palace feeling like a goddess. Her fresh twist-out was bouncy, her edges were sleek, and she was walking with the kind of confidence that only a perfect hair day can give.

Then she got to the grocery store.

She hadn’t even reached the aisle with the plantains when someone behind her blurted:
“Wow! Is that all your hair?”

Before she could respond, a curious hand reached out—uninvited—to touch it. Ada took a deep breath and smiled politely, but inside?
She was tired.

Tired of the stares.
Tired of the questions.
Tired of the comments.

Here Are 7 Things Women with Natural Hair Are Tired of Hearing

We get it—natural hair can be big, beautiful, and voluminous. But asking this question is like questioning someone’s body. Even if it’s a wig or an extension, it’s still hers. She paid for it. She owns it. So yes, it’s hers.

2. “Can I Touch It?”

Or worse—not even asking.
Natural hair is not a petting zoo. It’s personal space. The time and energy it takes to style natural hair deserves respect, not surprise hands reaching out like it’s a new toy.

3. “It Must Be So Hard to Manage.”

Spoiler alert: All hair requires maintenance. What’s hard is dealing with products that don’t work, stylists who aren’t trained in natural textures, and society’s ever-shifting beauty standards. With the right knowledge and care, natural hair can be easy to manage.

4. “You’d Look So Much Better with Straight Hair.”

Oof. That one stings.
Why? Because it implies that beauty equals conformity. Natural hair isn’t a phase or rebellion; it’s identity. It’s culture. It’s pride. And it’s stunning, just the way it is.

5. “Why Don’t You Just Relax It?”

Many naturals have heard this from friends, family, and even strangers. But choosing to stay natural is about freedom and choice. It's about embracing texture, not fighting it.

6. “Your Hair Is So…Different.”

Translation: “I don’t know what to say, so I’ll say something awkward.”
Different doesn’t mean bad. And while curiosity is welcome, word choice matters.

7. “Wow, You Changed Your Hair Again?”

Yes, and she might change it again tomorrow! That’s one of the superpowers of natural hair—versatility. One day it’s a fro, the next day braids, the day after that it’s a slick bun. Let her enjoy it!

So, What Should You Say Instead?

• “Your hair looks beautiful.”

• “I love how you styled it.”

• “Do you have a go-to salon?”

See? Easy. Support, not scrutiny.

At Flourish Beauty Palace, We Get It.

We understand the journey—transitioning, trimming, protecting, and groming. We know what it means to spend hours detangling only to fall asleep halfway through your twist-out. We know the joy of finding a stylist who actually understands your hair type.

That’s why we don’t just offer services, we offer a safe space. A salon where you feel celebrated, not judged. Where we care about your hair health and help you fall in love with every curl, coil, and kink.

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